And my comment, slighty revised (cuz I write more on other people’s blog than I do my own…):
I think that when we dream of our own fairy tales, we only focus on the ending. The happily ever after. And dismiss the actual story it took you so long to read. The whole part after the once upon a time. And that’s why we have a hard time accepting that our fairy tales will have the twists and turns and requires that unconditional love that gets us to the happily ever after.
I think this series has given me a new appreciation for my own relationship(s) because the ongoing battles force me to think of happily ever after as an ongoing state of existence–not as a goal of somehow getting to a future with no problems and all happy days. They/We don’t live happily ever after at the end of the book, but they lived happily ever after throughout the book and beyond. It’s like a cycle bundled in one–it takes the unconditional love to get through those major obstacles and the major obstacles at the same time somehow make the love stronger.
These books were right on time.
<Back to my own blog>
I saw relationship(s) because it occurred to me today while chatting with a friend that my circle has drastically changed in last couple of years. My best friends at various points of my life, who I thought I would never be without, are no longer my closest friends. And knowing that I once thought they would be my ride or die chicks until I died makes me sad. And quite honestly, it makes me a little afraid to get close to people, even though I know deep down that God puts people in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It’s not just some cliche. But the hurt of waking up and not having a friend is still real.
I think that’s the beauty of Twilight–it has made me reflect on my ideals of a romantic relationship is, what I think a soulmate is or feels like or can go through, but it also has made me think more deeply about relationships I have as a whole–which has always been an area of my life that’s not exactly a strength. I’ve been blessed to see that goodbye isn’t always forever. More than once. My best friend in high school and I are cool again after not keeping touch throughout our college years, and that lets me know that our friendship wasn’t a fluke. But at the end of the day, I still have to make the choice between my overall happiness and (how related my happiness is to that relationship) and how important a relationship is to me. Bella grapples with this throughout the book, and I think one reason I’m so engaged in this book is because I can find my life throughout it.
Ok, that’s it on that for now. Unlike Vonetta, I have one more book to go!