So! If you know me really well, you know I can’t stand the spotlight. Especially if I have to open my mouth. Some think it’s really hard to believe because I’m always serving in leadership capacities, but I’ve always been kind of a behind the scenes person. Well, I’ve realized that in my life–at work, in social settings, and in community settings–I really need to get over this dislike of public speaking and meeting people cold (without any introduction) so that I can walk through any doors that God may open in order to let His light shine through me.
So yesterday, I attended a one-day seminar at Emory about being an effective presenter, and boy, was I blessed. Vicki Flier Hudson is the bomb, and this class is definitely worth the time and mulah. At the beginning of the day, we discussed what our barriers were and how to overcome them. We were told that in order to tighten up our outer game, we have to deal with the inner game. I had never really asked myself WHY I don’t like all eyes on me. Or at least not long enough to come up with an answer. So when I was asked yesterday, I kinda just gave a blank stare. And after the talk, I think it’s really just fear of the unknown and being self-conscious of what someone may be thinking as they size me up. #1 thing I took from the class yesterday: “I am Nada Dee, and I have something valuable to offer these people.” I will begin reciting that mantra before I have to stand before an audience and speak about something.
According to my teacher, I have the skills. I am personable and I connect well with my audience, make great facial expressions (everyone knows that! lol), sound like I know what I’m talking about. But I find myself giving off negative body language because of my apprehension and low self-confidence of being in front, and I don’t project loudly enough sometimes. So knowing my weaknesses and going equipped with new exercises to deal with these, I think the class was an awesome launching pad for improvement. I’ve also joined Toastmasters, and I have resolved not to turn down any more opportunities to share who I am and what I have to offer to anyone. Whether it be speaking, singing, or whatever. One day I may even like getting up and talking to groups of people. Oh how unstoppable I will be then. Happy Friday!
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I really needed to be @ that seminar! This new job requires more human interaction than I’m used to and you know how much I dislike being in the front. Keep me updated on your progress. Maybe I could learn from your example 🙂
Will do! I’ll email you her recommended reading list and if I can find them online, I’ll send you the tricks and breathing exercises she gave us. Isn’t it crazy that the two singers hate being upfront?
I enjoyed meeting you as well! Looking forward to connecting more.