Topsy Turvy of Scandal

Topsy Turvy of Scandal

Every Thursday night at 10 PM, I’m glued to my TV and to FB watching Scandal and the commentary of my FB friends who are just as addicted to the show. The show, quick-paced and captivating, makes me question the morals of my FB friends (and every now and then myself) every single week though. How good is Shonda Rhimes that she can get the masses to root for what we’d (hopefully) consider wrong in real life?? Here are some examples.

1. The most obvious example of topsy turvy is the romantic relationship between President Fitzgerald “Fitz” Grant and the main character of the show, Olivia Pope. Their affair has been the object of envy for many, with people talking about the potential for unconditional love if only they could be together. Ummm in real life, I don’t think anyone would see it that way. I mean, c’mon. As far as I’ve seen, his marriage was just fine before Olivia came on the scene. I know things happen <remember the “Love Makes Things Happen” video?>, but in my brain and heart, I hope that if I ever get married that my husband and I will be able to always choose each other and believe that when we joined each other under God that it was the right decision, no matter who we may meet in the future. So it always makes me pause that Mellie is depicted as such a b!tch (don’t get me a wrong–she’s a beast when it comes to the political arena… BUT that’s prolly why he fell for her and married her in the first place!) and like she’s wrong for wanting her marriage to work, when she’s the victim. Just the allure of Scandal, I guess.

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2. Now, I’m guilty of the topsy turvy in this next example. Last week, when James kept digging after hearing that David Rosen’s conspiracy theory might not be so crazy after all and found the memory card in the voting machine in the high school, I was MAD at him!!! I was thinking ‘WHY won’t you leave well enough alone???” LOL–how nuts is that?? Now, y’all know if I found out something like that happened in real life if I had the evidence or a lead for the evidence to prove it happens in real life, I probably wouldn’t just leave well enough alone. Unless of course I was scared for my life (like I am for James’ life). He’s not the bad guy!! The folks who rigged the election are, but yet again, it’s the allure of that doggone Scandal.

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3. Each week, I cringe every time Quinn finds out a little bit more about what happened to her that fateful night when she gained a new identity. Now y’all know good and doggone well that if you woke up one day on the other side of the country from where you were last time you were conscious with new documents on the nightstand, you would want to know what the HELL happened to you. And you probably wouldn’t let it go. But every week, I say to the TV, “Ma’am, you got off! Quit snooping!!! Sit down somewhere!! Just go with it!” LOL, how crazy is that?? One word: Scandal.

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4. How many people think snipers are cool and perfect friends? Well, before Scandal I wouldn’t have raised my hand. I mean, sheesh, snipers/hit men/spies are kinda untrustworthy, a teensy wee bit crazy, right? Well, every week, including last night as he was packing up his equipment after possibly shooting the president (we’ll see what actually happened next week!), I think to myself ‘Self, where can I get me a Huck??’ Someone so dedicated to protecting me, even if he’s willing to burn someone’s skin off his bones to teach them a lesson. Now y’all know that ain’t right. But it’s that addictive Scandal!!

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Those are just four examples. There are plenty to go around. What are your topsy turvy moments in Scandal–what do you know you would not support (hopefully) in real life but you find yourself amazingly rooting for it during that hour that seems like 20 minutes? Where are my Scandal fans??

On Disappointment and Hope

On Disappointment and Hope

Crystal A. deGregory, Ph.D.'s avatarHBCUSTORY

We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite HOPE.

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Morehouse ’48

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Can’t Get Enough of Swapnista

Can’t Get Enough of Swapnista

Last Saturday I went to the Fall Swapnista Day Party. I was prepared this time, though. In the spring, I had no idea what to expect, so I lost my mind when I got there. This time I was ready. Decked in holey jeans, a gray light sweater with a sheer stripe across the back, leopard print loafers, and fire red lips (for which I gave tips), I was ready to get my shop on. (Sorry no pics of me, I forgot!!)

I love when events evolve. Just from the first to the second, it grew. More vendors, more people, more fashion. 🙂 This go round, the fashion show featured fashion bloggers (maybe I should start writing about my fashion finds and opinions so I can participate next time), and there were some #wins and a couple of #fails. Of the wins, my fave items (not on one person but throughout the show so don’t be alarmed, lol) were a denim striped blazer with very defined shoulders, a polka dot sheer shirt, a very cute orange printed long sleeveless wrap dress, and some fabulous red platform pumps.

I know you’re waiting on the deets on what I bought, right? 🙂 I didn’t spend as much as I did last time, but I supported an already favorite vendor and found two new vendors.

My first purchase was this great set from Wendy Derilus of Traci Lynn Fashion Jewelry. Metallic combo at its best. I can’t wait to get jiggy in this.

Then I got a lovely little accordion style dress that I plan to layer for the fall and let loose in the summer. Wasn’t very photogenic, but I got this great wooden bracelet with gold accents from the same vendor. I’ll have to log on later tonight to give you the link to this vendor. Sorry!!

Finally, nearing the end of my budget for the day (I did a wee bit of shopping before I got to Swapnista, oops), I had to show some love to Nappy Rutz and picked up these great earrings.

This time I brought a friend with me, and I’m sure she enjoyed it as well. She bought more jewelry than I did!

I totally planned on participating in the swap this time, but I left the house to go to a community service project that morning and never went back to collect my giveaways. Which is kinda sad since I’m doing some fall cleaning as we speak so it would have been nice to share. Next time, I will have to just ride around with my goodies for the week before to make sure I have them to swap out. I love the concept, and I know there have been times my friends have said let me know when you’re cleaning out your closet–just goes to show that we all have a little consignment shop in our closets. 🙂

Kudos to another great event! Can’t wait till the next!

The Help – Reads and Reels!

The Help – Reads and Reels!

I’m so excited! One of our Reads is finally hitting the big screen. This one was near and dear to me when the book came out because it’s set in my hometown of Jackson, Mississippi. On Tuesday, Reads and Reels is checking out the screening. Afterward, we’re headed to Vinings Inn to partake in yummy southern fare and discuss the movie.

The Help by Kathryn Stockett is set during the Civil Rights era and is narrated by three characters: two maids and a young white woman home fresh from college looking for a serious writing gig who ends up helping maids across Jackson tell their stories.

If you haven’t read the book, you should. It is a very enjoyable (and easy) read. The characters are very relatable–I guarantee your brain will be able to easily develop pictures and profiles of these characters–you may even be able to insert someone you already know into these roles. From the awkward and somewhat naive Skeeter to the uber bitchy and manipulative Hilly to the wise and nurturing Aibileen to the  sassy yet secretly fragile Minny. And I can’t forget the “new money” loud but sweet Celia. Stockett did a great job developing these characters and weaving stories to really draw readers into the lives of these characters.

Of course, because I’m me and I get so caught up in books, the couple of issues I had with the book nagged at me the whole time I was reading. These issues are:

  1. The only dialect the white characters had was “co-cola”. The black characters slurred/combined words the way many southerners do, so I felt that the dialogue of the white characters should have as well if Kathryn Stockett was going for the southern charm (big difference bw dialect and bad grammar and no matter who you are, rich, poor, educated, or not, if you live in MS esp back then, southern dialect prevailed so use it for everyone or not at all, IMO).
  2. The mothers of the characters were WAY TOO OLD. People weren’t having kids at 30 or 40 back then, seen in that the characters were super early 20s and starting families; but their moms were super old, decrepit, and on their death beds. I never grasped how this was possible!
  3. The story about Constantine, Skeeter’s childhood maid, at the end (no spoilers here) was just not compelling to me, especially after hearing so many stories of racial consequences as I grew up and still. I had been waiting the whole book for a major *pa-yow* and got *ting*.
  4. There were certain details that didn’t quite hit the mark historically-speaking. I tried to ignore it since it’s clear in most of the book that the author still doesn’t quite get the plight of blacks in the south at the time, but my radical side nodded when I read a few of the entries in this blog.

***EDIT (insert): I found this forum on Amazon, and it’s a reeeeeally interesting conversation about the issues that some readers have had with the book. Check it out as I am. 🙂 Esp if you liked the book but just didn’t feel warm and fuzzy when done with it***

So as I anticipate the book come to life, I’m hoping that the movie captures the complexity of Minny–she’s deliciously spunky but still delicate. I also hope that the movie shows a couple of the back stories of characters that weren’t major in the book, like the woman who stole the costume jewelry from that winch Hilly (you know a book has well-developed characters when you really feel true negativity toward a character!) to help pay for her twin boys to stay at Tougaloo (HOLLA!) and ended up catching holy hell because of it.

Can you tell that I am soooooooooo excited to see the movie? After spending time casting actresses with my fellow readers, I’m looking forward to seeing the official cast and the movie interpretation. What about you?

What did you think of the book? What are you expecting of the movie?

Demand Better

Demand Better

Hey guys, I know I’m slipping. I’ll be back soon. But in my stead, here’s a really good piece about quality black entertainment.

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Juneteenth, Reloaded

Juneteenth, Reloaded

Tomorrow is Juneteenth, so check out this archived post.  Onward and upward!

Happy New Year (2 months later)!!

Happy New Year (2 months later)!!

I know I’ve been ghost, but I’m baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!  Today is Love Day Eve, and I have LOTS on my mind.  I hope all you cupids out there are having a great day, even if you’re snowed in!

As expected (because anything can happen happens to me), lots has transpired since my Princess and Frog post, including me becoming a lil Tiana in my own rite. So I have lots of stories to entertain with.

Be back in a jiffy (and I mean it this time),

Nada Dee 🙂

My Being vs Their Interpretation

My Being vs Their Interpretation

If you know me, you know I’m not that into poetry.  But Monday night, at the end of my Junior League diversity training (and I unexpectedly got LOTS from that seminar), one of my fellow provisionals recited this poem.  It really moved me, so I’m sharing it.

I am an idea
Conceived in the mind of the Universe
And interpreted in the minds
of the individuals I meet

Within myself I am constant
Yet I am as ever changing
as the people who interpret me

I can control my actions
But I can not control their thoughts
Therefore, I must do what I think right
And let others —
Think what they will

This was featured in Footprints in the Mind, published in 1979 by Javan Press.