10 Ways to Love

10 Ways to Love

Today, I need this. I needed it yesterday, and I know I’ll need it tomorrow. I posted it on my Tumblr, but I need to devote more than just one thought on it today.

As we get older, relationships get more complicated (family, friend, romantic, etc.) and you really have to decide who you want to dedicate time and energy to–who reciprocates and who adds positive energy to your life, recharging you for this life that’s full of ups and downs. But once you do, it still ain’t an easy journey because we’re all human. And no matter what, you need to be able to discern how to be loving in all steps of your walk. It’s the greatest commandment, remember? From the stranger you pass on the street that may need a smile to the long lost friend you haven’t spoken to in a year that may need a listening ear out of the blue. From the family member that gets on that one nerve to the boyfriend/partner/boothang (whatever you wanna call him or her) that doesn’t always speak or hear your primary love language. Love is still the goal.

So here’s the post, with the verses that go along. Happy Tuesday.

1. Listen without interrupting. (Proverbs 18)

To answer before listening— that is folly and shame. The human spirit can endure in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear? The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out. – Proverbs 18:13-15

2. Speak without accusing. (James 1:19)

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

3. Give without sparing. (Proverbs 21:26)

All day long he craves for more, but the righteous give without sparing.

4. Pray without ceasing. (Colossians 1:9)

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives.

5. Answer without arguing. (Proverbs 17:1)

Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.

6. Share without pretending. (Ephesians 4:15)

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

7. Enjoy without complaint. (Philippians 2:14)

Do everything without grumbling or arguing.

8. Trust without wavering. (1 Corinthians 13:7)

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

9. Forgive without punishing. (Colossians 3:13)

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

10. Promise without forgetting. (Proverbs 13:12)

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

The Love Chapter

MLM: How to Know God’s Leading You

MLM: How to Know God’s Leading You

Having not such a good day, but this post from 6-7-07 jumped out at me as I was browsing.  Still not really sure what it means to me on today, but it’s a pretty good post.  Enjoy.  Hope you’re having a better day than I am!  Oh, and Happy Indigenous People’s (or Native Americans) Day.

“Abraham… obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” Hebrews 11:8 NIV

God guides us by closing one door then opening another. Abraham didn’t know where he was going, but he knew he couldn’t stay where he was — and that’s enough to create movement in the right direction. Knowing you can’t stay where you are is often the starting point of God’s guidance. And it usually begins with an inward stirring and restlessness in your soul. Seasons have beginning and endings. When a season is over, you sense it’s time to move!

“They headed north [to]… Bithynia, but again the Spirit… said no. So instead they went on through Mysia province to the city of Troas. That night Paul had a vision. In his dream he saw a man over in Macedonia, Greece, pleading with him, ‘Come over here and help us.’ Well, that settled it. We would go to Macedonia, for we could only conclude that God was sending us to preach the Good News there” (Acts 16:7-10 TLB). Notice, when God kept Paul from going to Asia, Paul didn’t stay there praying and asking “why?” — he just kept moving. For Paul, trying something and it not working out was no big deal. He believed that his gift to God was his willing heart and his mobility, and that God’s gift to him was that He would always guide him to where he needed to be. What God prevents, denies, or keeps us away from is as much divine guidance as what He permits and opens up to us. Every door that didn’t open, every opportunity you didn’t get, every call that didn’t come, is as much God’s guidance as those that did. Think about it!

What He said to me:
This whole devotional today was for me. I bolded and italicized the stuff that jumped out in a big way. My reading and praying today were confirmation for some of the things I’ve done in the past (including recent past) that some thought was kinda crazy, but I just felt I was supposed to move. I can only praise God for working with me–I might have issues in one area, but definitely not in all. I’ve always been ready and able to move in and out of situations that cultivate my future as far as career and business, etc., go. I have to thank Him for that strength because really, that’s what keeps me going when I’m severely struggling with my weak areas.

Which leads me to my weakest area–relationships. It also reinforced all that I’m having to re-learn about relationships. I have the tendency to try to make things work instead of letting them work. And of course instead of letting people go when their seasons are over, I have a hard time and I keep trying. Thinking there has to be something I can do to stop the end from coming (or from my castle being “destroyed” as the metaphor was yesterday). And I have to stop doing that. But I can say that the Lord is good to me because He takes people away from me–closes doors, stops calls, all that jazz–when He sees I’m not gonna. It creates an extra bit of pain, but at the end of the day I know it’s because I was keeping something that would distract me and hinder me from going where I’m supposed to go. I just have to learn how to deal with that pain. Or avoid the pain altogether by being obedient!!!! Which is my goal. I have got to learn how to apply the almost blind faith I have in Him in my business/career life to my personal/social life. Once I master that, oh goodness, watch out now!!